Friday, October 9, 2009

Repeat after me moms, "It's OK to Work!" & you can be happy doing it!

According to an article just posted yesterday by CNN, working moms say they are busy, but happy. I agree completely. Being a working mom is hard, but it has its positives. Sometimes its hard to see the positives, because as working moms we feel guilt for not being at home. The grass will always looks greener on the other side, but for now, here are a few thing great things about being a working mom:

1.) Working moms get a break
  • That's right, working moms get a break from the norm and all the everyday duties at home. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to be a stay at home mom just once, to see what its like. But, I also enjoy going to work and taking a break from the insanity of running a household.
2.) Working moms have an opportunity to create a strong bond with their kids
  • You're thinking, "How can we bond, when all we do is work?" Well, its kind of like the old saying, "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." In families with SAHMs, their lives are filled with everyday activities, chores, errands, lists, and duties. Bonding time gets set aside quite often. One would think that having more time to spend with one another would help that bond, and it may. I can't say for sure, because all I've known is working, except when I was on maternity leave for 2 months. But I believe, as working moms, if we take one "Mommy and Me Day" a week and dedicate it to having fun with our kids, it will help us bond with our kids. I mean a day with no pressure or strict rules, just fun. These are the days our kids will remember. I encourage Stay-at-Home Moms to do the same, as they need to take time to bond as well.
3.) Working moms are setting a positive example for their kids
  • I feel lucky because I grew up in a very hardworking, entrepreneurial family. I grew up understanding the need to work hard and give your best. I was always taught to try hard and do my best every day. Maybe I am lucky, or maybe society has just changed. A few years ago, I went through a string of college interns that were appalling. It amazed me that they would call into work or show up an hour late. It was as if they had been taught book smarts (even those seemed skimmed over), and that nobody had taught them life lessons or business skills. As working moms, setting a responsible example of going to work and doing our job with a positive attitude, helps our kids think positively about work. This will ultimately help them in the future. After all, we can't depend on our schools to teach them everything, it is our responsibility as parents to instill things like good morals, healthy eating, and a good work ethic in our children.
4.) Working moms are helping their family during hard times like the recession
  • As much as it sucks to go to work, and spend your day in a retail store watching other "soccer moms" shop with their kids (can you sense my personal grudge here?), look on the bright side: You Have a Job! So many people right now aren't that lucky. Some moms are at home because they can't find a job, and their family is struggling even more than you to make ends meet. Its hard to stay positive, but everyday I tell myself, "I'm thankful I have a job. I have more than many people right now."
The article on CNN says, "U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics show that 66 percent of women with children age 17 or younger work either full or part time. Among those mothers, nearly three-quarters work full time." Working is a reality now folks, whether you are a mom, a dad, or even a teenager. The recession has blinders on and let's face it: everyone has to chip in! Its OK though. Working is not evil. Its not even a bad thing. Working is a part of life, and is what I believe God created us to do. After all, after making Adam, the first thing he did was give him a job to name all the animals and take care of them. That's right, the first job in the world was a Zookeeper. Working "is what it is". What our work "becomes", depends on how we choose to have an attitude about it. I choose to be positive and help my kids find work to be a positive thing.

Repeat after me moms, "It's OK to work! IT'S OK TO WORK!" (Believe me I have to tell myself this every day!)

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